Relationship Anarchy in Practice: A Workbook for Building Agreements from Scratch

Understanding Relationship Anarchy conceptually is one thing; sitting across from a person you care about and actually negotiating a relationship without a default template is another. People often discover a gap between the philosophy they endorse and the habits they fall back on under stress — the urge to label, rank, or measure. This workbook bridges that gap with structured tools. By the end of this course you will be able to use concrete worksheets to map your current relationships, draft individualized agreements with each connection, identify where inherited assumptions are still operating, and practice the communication moves that RA depends on. What you will learn: - How to complete a relationship-mapping exercise that surfaces hidden hierarchies and assumptions - Worksheet methods for identifying your own core needs versus inherited expectations - A step-by-step process for opening an RA-style relationship conversation with an existing partner - How to draft, document, and revisit relationship agreements without locking them into permanence - Communication techniques for expressing needs without framing them as demands or entitlements - How to handle the moment when an agreement no longer fits — renegotiation without blame - Checklists for common RA challenges: introducing a new connection, navigating time and resource allocation, addressing jealousy - Self-assessment exercises for tracking your own progress and recurring sticking points over time The course is structured as a series of working sessions. Each session opens with a short conceptual framing, followed by a worksheet you complete for your actual relationships. Reflection prompts help you notice emotional reactions as they arise. A set of conversation-guide templates gives you ready language for common RA discussions. You work at your own pace; the materials are designed to be returned to as your relationships evolve. No partner participation is required to complete the course, though many exercises are designed to be shared. This course is designed for people who already have some familiarity with RA principles and want practical tools for living them. It is also suitable for anyone in an existing non-monogamous relationship who feels their current structure doesn't fit but doesn't know how to redesign it. No prior background in formal communication training is required. You will finish with a personal relationship-design workbook that reflects your actual values and circumstances, not a generic template.